Things I shout while playing any video game ever:
- YOU FUCKING HOE
- YOUR MOTHER SHOULD HAVE SWALLOWED YOU
- I FUCKING (SCREAMS)
- FUCKING BALLS
- OH WHAT THE ACTUAL LIVING FUCK
- YOU CAN SUCK MY SWEATY FUCKING BALLS
- I HATE THIS GAME
- FUCK ME
- FUCK YOU
- WHY AM I FUCKING PLAYING THIS GAME
- I’m so fucKING DONE
- WHAT THE FUCK JUST HAPPENED
- [PTERODACTYL SCREECH]
have you ever taken your dog to a jumping competition
I just wanna cuddle in bed with her. Watch stupid movies that we are not even paying attention too. Just to fall asleep in her arms or she falls asleep in mine. I wanna wake up to her smile and say good morning.
if you ever get the chance please kiss me just fucking do it just go straight for the smooch and take it
can we PLEASE stop romanticizing my ass hole
Rizzoli & Isles 1x06
Once Upon a Time 3x18
Jane and Emma peaking at their wives when they are meditating.
(not my gifs)
SwanQueen nation, you will cheer up whether you like it or not! I am intentionally trying to make you smile with these little giffies.
Thank you for this!!!
I was watching mean girls on nick jr and they censored the words gay and homosexual but not bitch and slut because it’s not okay to expose kids to the existence of homosexuality but it’s okay for them to hear derogatory terms for women
If they were talking about a documentary about the need for queer representation in American media I would be 200% pro this documentary. But that’s not what it’s about. It’s about SQ representation on the show.
However, there has been much backlash toward the Swan Queen fandom due to it connecting two women romantically on what some like to call a “family show”. Instead of fighting back with negativity, the Swan Queen Movement grew. The Movement set out to “Kill’em with kindness”. The mission was to change the perception of our rather large group by spreading messages of equality, kindness, love and inclusiveness.
The backlash to SQ isn’t about the fact that it’s linking two women romantically. It’s about these specific women and the reasons many people don’t want them together. As Eddy answered, one of them is the daughter of Snow White and Prince Charming and the other is the reason she grew up alone. Regina tried to kill Emma the day she was born and many times since that. People have many reasons other than gender that they don’t like the ship. The biggest backlash, though, is to the SQ shippers themselves, and the bullying they do. The BAs that call people homophobic. The way they use offensive phrases like penis parade. The bi erasure and hurtful things they say to other queer people who don’t share their ship.
The message I personally have gotten from the BAs in the SQ fandom has been inequality, rudeness, hate and exclusiveness.
My biggest reason for not liking this domumentary is that I don’t want anyone to think that they are the representation of the fandom. I get wanting your ship to happen, but crying that it’s homophobia and trying to force it to happen makes me really upset. The idea that they sell themselves as representing the queer community and then turn around and insult anyone with a penis and hurt queer people that don’t ship SQ is insulting and hurtful.
Or maybe you could ask US instead so we can explain exactly what the documentary is about instead of speculating.
Usually this kind of commentary comes from folks that actually harbor a bit of fear towards something like this succeeding. Clearly they are willing to spend time talking about it. Only makes it that much more important.
I do fear this documentary succeeding because the SQ fandom is not representative of the LGBQTIA community. There are many wonderful people in the SQ fandom. There are also horrible examples to people being told they are homophobic for not shipping it. Queer people are being told that they are homophobic because of a fictional ship that is about more than gender. I have experienced bi erasure. I have seen hurtful phrases like penis parade used.
I have never experienced mare exclusion from the queer community than from BAs in the SQ fandom that have told people that they can’t really be lesbian if they don’t ship SQ, or that they’re self hating if they don’t ship it, or homophobic.
Queer issues and queer representation is very important, but trying to get it while hurting others in the queer community makes no sense to me. And while I want more queer characters on TV I don’t want to continue the ‘queer as villain’ trope. Regina is a murder/abuser and that’s why I don’t want SQ. Nothing to do with them both being women.
So yes, you could say I fear this suceeding. I don’t want the world at large or the production staff at OUAT to thing that SQ shippers speak for the whole community. And the idea of the SQ ship has been addressed multiple times by A&E. They specifically said it’s not happening. I don’t see the point in lying and saying it hasn’t been addressed.
Exactly, the only homophobia I have ever come across in this fandom has been from SQ shippers. (Which is not to say it doesn’t happen from others, but this is all I have seen). As a queer woman I do not like the idea of SQ shippers speaking for me. As a rape victim, I really don’t want a rapist representing me.
If you want to make a documentary about Queer representation that is great, but don’t centre it around a ship that is not only complete fanon (and has been confirmed as not happening by the writers), but whose fans are famous for being exclusionary to queers.
If you don’t wish to participate, then don’t. Those of us that do, will. Seems simple to me. I’m afraid arguing about who or what the right kind of SQ fan is will just lead to a stalemate, because it’s up to each of us individually to decide how we participate in this fandom. All SQ fans are important and all contribute to the fandom in many lovely, creative ways and this is just one of them. You’re all important but let’s live and let live. Do what you can to make the best of SQ, but don’t tear down others in the process. Maybe do something separate that stands on it’s own showing your perspective on SQ? Maybe create something telling Adam and Eddy that you’re perfectly satisfied with SQ as it is and not to change a thing? Everyone has their own perspective.
Saying “If you don’t wish to participate, then don’t” is like saying if you don’t like saying if you don’t like slavery just don’t participate. When someone is doing something that hurts a group of people, just standing back is not enough.
This has nothing to do with SQ as a ship, I’m sure most SQ shippers are as disgusted as the rest of the fandom. There are lots of lovely SQ shippers out there.
This is about a group of people who think it is OK to trivialise the very real fight queer people fight every day by using it as a tool to force the A&E to talk about their ship. As well as being offensive, that is actively harmful to the fight for queer rights.
Queer fans are regularly queer bashed by SQ shippers. One of the people who spoke up against this was told she couldn’t be a real lesbian if she didn’t ship SQ.
If The SQM want to make a film advocating their ship that is fine, but they shouldn’t be claiming to speak for the queer community when SQ are famous for being exclusionary to anyone who isn’t a SQ shipping cis lesbian.
And seriously, let’s don’t equate a lovely bunch of fan girls and their project with slavery. That’s just in poor taste.
Have a nice evening.
I see a number of people being antagonistic & attacking fellow queers & it isn’t SWEN. But hey, who needs facts when we can attack each other & do the work of the anti-queer movement for us?
P.S. The evil queer trope is why Emma is a key factor in the pairing. Regina being saved by her love for a woman & turned good would turn the evil queer trope on its head.
This is not an attack. It is tagged ‘anti SQ’ and if SQ shippers want to troll the anti tags to cause trouble that’s their issue. But people are allowed to vent about things that they’re upset about.
This blog was started because of all the queer people that feel ostracized by a portion of the SQ fandom claiming to speak for the LGBQTIA community and telling other queer people that they’re wrong for not supporting a ship. Queer people have been called homophobic and self hating. There have been examples of bi erasure and offensive comments like ‘penis parade.’ This is a fact. It’s not an attack, it’s people who have been hurt having a place to vent.
Of course this is not all of the SQ shippers, but it is happening and queer people are getting hurt.
You are welcome to view SQ as turning a trope on its head. Others don’t see it that way, and are free to disagree.
I saw this on my dashboard, not in a tag, and what bothered me was that it was attacking the shippers, not just the ship. If you don’t support the ship, fine, don’t ship it. It’s no skin off my nose.
For the record, the term “penis parade” came about because this show used to be a show about strong women, but the show has been giving so much attention and screentime to the men on the show at the expense of the women that it has basically become a different show. It has absolutely nothing to do with shipping preferences and is simply a frustration with the lead females losing screentime and not being able to show off their acting skills.
The original post was talking very specifically about the shippers that bully and call people homophobic, not all SQ shippers. The SQ shippers that commit bi erasure and those that claim to represent the queer community but hurt queer people with their exclusive language. I’m sorry it came across your dash but that’s because a SQ shipper reblogged it. It wasn’t tagged anything but anti SQ.
The blog exists both as a safe place for people to vent and a place to talk about other queer ships in the fandom because SQ is not all inclusive and there are other ships.
Your assumption right here in using ‘penis parade’ is that men have penises and women don’t. That’s very hurtful and untrue, and a good example of why SQ represents a part of the LGBQTIA community but not nearly all of it.
People are free to ship or not ship anything. It the fact that people are called homophobic or have their sexual identity questioned that troubles me. And that’s why I talk about the BAs in the fandom. Not all of fandom.
I wasn´t even going to comment on this, and I have been seeing this lots on my dash, but they I smelled fake ally troll bullshit and I have to.
“because SQ is not all inclusive and there are other ships.
Your assumption right here in using ‘penis parade’ is that men have penises and women don’t.”
Dude, are you even AWARE pretty much all of the swen headcanon is that Regina is bisexual? (Sometimes Emma but her soft butch personification makes her more easy to relate to a lesbian). Every single fanfic I have read alude to that, it´s not even a matter of what sexuality they are, is a matter of LOVE. To me Regina is pansexual. I don´t see you mention the pansexuals? OMGOD! YOU ARE PANPHOBIC!!! D:< DISGUSTING!…… see how stupid my assuption is? just like how you sound.
Let me explain you a thing, “penis paraid” is a term used to describe heterosexism not describing men literally. Can you really call yourself ouatqueer if you discriminate against sq? excuse you but as far as I know, regarless of how people portray Emma´s and Regina´s sexuality THEY ARE STILL A QUEER COUPLE. Why do you discriminate? not that I want you to include SQ in your pity blog. Who are you? an Ally? a Social justice blog? selfproclaimed champion of ouat queer? a bored citicen without a job? or a troll? I´m counting on troll, yes yes troll. 100% troll.
why would SQers be HOMOPHOBIC?!?! FOR FUCK SAKES THE SHIP IS 100000000000000000% GAY (oh wait I can´t use only gay, because then that´ll make me queerphobic)!!!! HOW CAN YOU BE HOMOPHOBIC WHEN YOU LOVE THE LADY LOVING PAIRING?!?!?! SOMEONE EXPLAIN TO ME PLEASE???????????????
Something posted in the anti-SQ tag that spreads misinformation is up for discussion. True ‘allies’ wouldn’t say things like ‘bullying and accusing people of homophobia’ in the same sentence because they’d know that homophobia is bullying but talking openly about homophobia (inclusive of things like ‘die queer die’ as an actual anon message in somebody’s inbox because they ship Swan Queen) IS NOT BULLYING.
Misinformation also in the form of ‘many queer shippers of NOT Swan Queen are oppressed by shippers of Swan Queen’ is 1. illogical and as odd as I’m making it sound 2. one or two people who deliberately bombarded MY ask box and the ask box of others with ‘do you think it’s ok for a gay person not to ship Swan Queen’ offensive statements that were then politely answered at first but when they became spam, attacking and illogical, were answered in ways that said ‘hey maybe you need to sort out a few things.’ The individual behind the majority of it is still trolling, still attacking Swan Queen shippers and really does need to figure out some things about themselves. and 3. The bullying that has occurred against Swan Queen shippers is something that the trolls still want to deny no matter how many times it slaps us all in the face. If you don’t believe that Queer people and their allies are bullied for shipping a same-sex ship in a violently homophobic fandom then LEAVE US ALONE TO DEAL WITH IT ON OUR OWN. Don’t constantly bombard us with ‘well you people are such bullies yourselves.’
As for the pro-SQ element of representation, the Swan Queen Movement is right on in trying to get this thing out there. If you don’t like it, don’t talk about it. You add nothing of value to the world by spreading lies and misinformation.
And yes, biphobia exists but biphobia is not about telling people that heterosexism hurts. An ongoing conversation about the transphobia of using the word ‘penis’ as a gendered concept IS happening. So dismissing everybody who ships Swan Queen based on this is insulting to me and others who are taking this conversation on. And yes, it is my personal head canon that Regina and Emma are both bi, AND at the same time as a lesbian I prefer to also read my own experiences into the world and shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed about that, so sometimes I write them or think them as two women who just haven’t been given the space and time to think about who they are because of heterosexism. Again, calling out heterosexism, NOT biphobia.
…I swear. That is the worst kind of horrific thing I’ve read in a long log time. If you don’t want to participate, don’t participate. Done and done.
Regularly queer bashed, huh? I call lies and I call troll. And the only queer on queer bashing I see is among anti-SQ contingent.